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When Your Writing is Validated
Apr 11th
it feels nice. This follows my post and comments the other day of the Ugly Betty Videos. Check out the link, the author is about the same age as I am. This is from the Independent Gay Forum, a conservative blog where Andrew Sullivan has been a regular contributor. Primarily gay libertarian perspectives on social issues.
Sometimes we don’t notice our victories until long after a battle has been won. Over the last couple of years, gay marriage has secured territory most people didn’t even realize was contested, and its loss will be far more devastating to gay marriage opponents than their victories in all the court cases and all the elections in the world.
I’m talking about sweetness.
Our opponents demonize us — sometimes subtly, sometimes explicitly, but viciously and relentlessly. Their chief weapon is sex – ours, not theirs — overlaid with a self-righteous piety that is funny when Dana Carvey does it, and wrongheaded no matter whose pursed lips it leaks out of. But while everyone from the Pope on down has been focused on the inherent disorders and immorality of homosexual sex, another front in the gay rights battle opened up: Gay teenagers in love.

Where was this show
Apr 8th
when I was 17 and why has it taken 18 years to finally get to this point on National TV? I hate to be sentimental but honestly I’d have given anything to have had a role model on TV that was not some kind of freak show during that time in my life. It’s funny, you don’t realize the things that today’s generation has that you never thought were possible when you were growing up until you see it happen. This applies to all kinds of things but it’s particularly true here.
Some things take a long time
Mar 24th
I don’t usually write much about kids. Honestly I just don’t have that much interest but once in a while there are things that come up that deserve to be written about, one of which has had national media attention, the other might in only a matter of days. This is about High School Proms. Yes, that tragic event that occurs once in a kids life and hopefully not more than that where they awkwardly go out to dinner at a restaurant they can’t afford, buy flowers for their dates that they can’t figure out how to put on, dance to music that they don’t like, and eventually leave and go off to some after-party that is always far more interesting than the prom. This year has been a little special and it has to do with gay kids.
First: Mississippi Prom Canceled after Lesbian’s Date Request – From USA today and nearly every other national Media outlet in the country. This is a story about Constance McMillan of a small town in Mississippi that sought to bring her date, another girl, to the prom so she could be uncomfortable at the prom right along with everyone else. The school board ended up denying her request and also, canceled the prom entirely to avoid having to allow her to bring her date. Their position was that she was quite allowed to attend, just not with another woman. With the FULL support of her parents, She and the ACLU sued the school board and yesterday a Federal judge ruled that Constance’s civil rights were violated and the school board acted inappropriately. During all of this parents organized a “private” prom since the school was no longer going to have one. Guess what, Constance was not invited. This story is not over and you’ll hear more about it.
Second: Derrik Martin GOT the OK to bring his boyfriend to his prom in a little town in Georgia, the school board not really even discuss the matter only saying that they had no policy against it. How did Derrick’s parents react to the news? They swiftly kicked him out of the house.
There is one thing that I want to focus on here in both of these stories and that is the parents. EVEN in 2010, parents all over this country continue to forcefully kick their children out of their house because their child had the self-confidence and courage to come out of the closet. I bet you didn’t know that one of the largest groups of homeless youth’s are GLBT kids. Throughout my life I have met a number of people who have not spoken to their parents since high school because their parents could not deal with their sexuality. It really troubles me that this 18 year old senior, who is an honors student and already has a scholarship to a university in the fall now has to prepare for the next phase of his life with no support from his parents. On the other hand Constance will not have the same issue. She also is 18, an honors student and headed to collage in the fall with the full support and encouragement from her parents. It should bother EVERYONE reading this blog when this sort of thing occurs.
I was pretty fortunate. While I’m sure that my parents had to make adjustments in their thinking when I came out to them and I know that each of them had various concerns, not once did I ever have to deal with any of the coming out process without their support. Coming Out is a big deal, especially for a teenager. 50 years from now it might not be but even today, it still is. Those of you that are straight will NEVER fully appreciate what it takes and what it means to come out and I say that with all due respect, it is simply not something you will ever experience. I was 17 or 18 and I had written a lengthy letter through which I came out to my parents. I spent a good 2 months writing that letter, and re-writing it and during that time I had built my own alliances with my friends in case things went the wrong way once I came up with the courage to give my parents that letter. I had a place to stay if I had needed it, I had a support group of people outside of my own family if I needed it. Well, I never needed to utilize any of that because while it did take some getting used to, my sexuality did not define my existence to my parents. It was not a simple process for any of us but it was not an issue that would end our relationship or traumatize it beyond repair. I was still their son and especially as a minor, they still understood that they had an obligation to put up with me until I was at least 18 or until I got out of high school. They of course continued long after that and continue to support me today. Derrick is never going to have that sort of support from his parents and he’s at an age when honestly he might need it the most. I know that was the case for me, I needed my parents more after high school than during it it seems. His relationship has fundamentally changed because his parents are unable to accept their son for who he is. It’s sad and it should upset you to know that this STILL occurs in this country in 2010.
So, the next time you are talking amongst your friends and one of them tells you they just kicked their kid out of the house because he was a queer and well Jebus just don’t like them queers you know, think long and hard about will happen to that kid and why your friend suddenly doesn’t love him or her anymore. It should make you really question that friendship.
Oh Danny Boy,
Feb 27th
The reason that equality for the GLBT community is visible in my life time:
“I have described myself as being ‘gently eccentric’ and slightly different as a person just because I’ve had a very different set of influences growing up than anybody else in my peer group did. I think it’s important for somebody from a big, commercial movie series like Harry Potter and particularly because I am not gay or bisexual or transgendered. The fact that I am straight makes not a difference, but it shows that straight people are incredibly interested and care a lot about this as well.” - Daniel Radcliffe, speaking from the NYC headquarters of the LGBT teen suicide prevention hot-line The Trevor Project, for whom he has just made a promotional film.
15 years ago when I was in high school, there were no major Hollywood celebrities willing to step up to the plate and go to bat for me. Those who did were on the fringes. For me personally, I’m not sure it would had much of an influence in my life, I was never a big celebrity follower but here we have Harry Potter, entirely straight with a HUGE following, and willing to put his money where his mouth is. The Trevor Project was founded not long after I got out of high school and there is a link to it on my sidebar here on this blog. It’s one of the few charities that I’d consider making a donation to. Perhaps you might as well.
Gary Glen and Co. at it again in Michigan
Feb 6th
Four Christians on Tuesday filed a federal lawsuit challenging the recently enacted Hate Crimes Prevention Act, arguing that it seeks to criminalize deeply held religious beliefs that are in opposition to homosexuality.
Read Box Turtle Bulletin’s take on this story here. Find out exactly the only thing these Christians must want.
This shit get’s old, luckily so are the people espousing this bile.
It’s about frickin time…
Feb 2nd
Today out of Washington DC:
“No matter how I look at the issue, I cannot escape being troubled by the fact that we have in place a policy which forces young men and women to lie about who they are in order to defend their fellow citizens,” Adm. Mike Mullen, the chairman of the Joint Chiefs of Staff, told the Senate Armed Services Committee. He said it was his personal belief that “allowing gays and lesbians to serve openly would be the right thing to do.”
Now, I’m no army boy. I have about as much interest in fighting a war as I do eating glass. That said, with all my pacifist tendencies, I still will typically go out of my way to support those who are willing to risk their lives to defend the ideals of this country. Granted, there are “just” wars and “unjust” wars but that is a political distinction not a practical one. Regardless of the justification for wars in general, millions of individuals are called on by our government and by a deep sense of personal commitment to the ideals of this country to serve and protect that which we all cherish. Freedom. One of the great travesties of Bill Clinton’s time in office was the passage of “Don’t ask Don’t Tell”. This, in effect, allowed openly gay men and women to serve in the armed forces as long as they were not “out” and did nothing to suggest that they were gay. If it was discovered they were gay or if they were forced out of the closet by a third party, no matter the reason, they could be discharged…. dishonorably. Since it’s implementation nearly 17 years ago, between 12,000 and 20,000 GLBT soldiers have been discharged at a cost to tax payers well into the 10′s of millions, many of those kicked out were critical players in the wars this country is fighting, NONE of whom did anything wrong…except be gay.
The implementation of this policy was a big deal. I was a senior in high school and it was a campaign issue for Bill Clinton. He would be the first president I actually got to vote for and this “compromise” was, in retrospect, forced on him by bigoted homophobes within the ranks of the military. It has always been a bad policy, even other major military countries have proven over and over again that allowing gays to serve openly is not an issue.
Finally we are seeing some progress towards repealing this law with hearings that started today. The big thing out of this is that Joint Chief’s are on board with a repeal. The question is not IF the policy will be repealed, it is simply a question of HOW it will be repealed. That’s huge because it means that a repeal is a fact, not a pipe dream. That they are debating only HOW to repeal the law and not WHY is important. Stay tuned over the next several months for updates.
A Name to Remember
Jan 23rd
Found this on a blog today, seems my fair state of Michigan has yet another wingnut seeking to become the next Secretary of State. It seems that RepubliKKKans in Michigan are hell bent on continuing to do whatever they can to run on platforms of hate and fear.
I will make it a priority to ensure transgender individuals will not be allowed to change the sex on their driver’s license in any circumstance.
The name is State Rep. Paul Scott, (R-Grand Blanc) and you all need to be sure that you don’t mark is little bubble in the election booth. I don’t talk much about transgender issues primarily because it doesn’t really relate to me. However they are the T in GLBT and part of broader Gay, Lesbian, Bi, and Trans community. An attack on one is an attack on all and I have lost most of my patience for political leaders who continue to prey on minorities in this state and in this country. For Mr. Scott, the above “priority” made it to the top of his list of things he wants to accomplish. Let’s make sure he doesn’t get that opportunity. Perhaps we can start addressing some of the issues in the image below rather than worrying about whether or not the person in the stall next to you might have once had a penis. The statistics below are only 3 years old and I can bet they’ve not changed much.
Cameras are not allowed
Jan 13th
In a rather spineless move, the US Supremes ruled today that television cameras will not be permitted in the courtroom to broadcast the Prop 8 trial in California. It was a split decision (5-4) and was decided on a technicality, not because of content. They found that there was not sufficient time for public input (as required) and that the change in rules was not in accordance with Judicial Council policy.
That being the case, at least for this trial, we will have to rely on courtroom reporters and sketch artists. Due to time and space, I’m not posting much detail about the proceedings of this trial but it is all very interesting. You can read summaries and transcripts via THIS web site if you are so inclined. The general consensus at this point is that our side is kicking major ass and proving beyond any reasonable doubt that Prop 8 passed because of fear and hatred towards gays and lesbians. That is only one aspect of what is trying to be proven but it is an important one because it introduces gays (if successful) as a suspect class at the federal level deserving of heightened scrutiny when it comes to equal treatment. One of the things that marriage equality hinges on is this fact. In every state that has found in favor of marriage equality, gays are seen in state law as a suspect class (in the same way that other protected minority groups are). As a result of that classification, courts had to rule in favor of equality. Anyhow, some of the arguments being presented are stunning. The witnesses yesterday were quite insightful and provided lots of information. It was history day which outlined decades of discriminatory treatment towards gays and lesbians since the early part of the 20th century. Today, they dove into social differences and similarities and did a very nice job illustrating that there are actually very few differences between gay couples and straight couples in so far as what they are seeking to accomplish through marriage. There has been much discussion of the impact that marriage has on children and why marriage directly benefits children whether they are in gay or straight households. There has also been strong emphasis on the fact that gay families with children DO exist and they are a reality whether people like that fact or not.
You all might be completely board with this but it is gripping to me. I should have been a historian or law librarian or something like that, I totally get into this stuff. This trial, in effect, is putting homosexuality on trial, not just marriage equality. It is establishing the patterns of discrimination towards gays through the years, it is debunking the religious arguments, it is, in my opinion, going to be one of the most important trials of the decade and it has the potential to have big ramifications for equality.
I finally have a day off tomorrow so I’ll be doing lunch with the folks and then getting things straightened up around the house. Work is draining right now, not much going on at all.
Let the Trial Begin
Jan 11th
You won’t be able to escape me blogging on what is likely to be one of the most critical trials of my lifetime. Of course, if you don’t have cable, you likely didn’t hear much of anything about this but perhaps a blurb on the network evening news. Today began with opening statements in Schwarzenegger v. Perry. I’ve written about this previously. It is the trial that will decide the fate of Proposition 8 which was the voter initiative that changed California’s Constitution to prohibit same sex marriage. That initiative passed by only 2% of the popular vote and as you will read below created a mammoth opportunity to bring this issue front and center for the entire country. The ramifications of this trail have the potential to be huge. A win at the state level is almost a certainty with even proponents of Prop 8 indicating that they are unlikely to win. They would most certainly appeal the decision to SCOTUS and it would be up to the highest court in the land to hear the case. This of course may take a very long time, maybe even years but as I said in a previous post, it deals directly with one of the most fundamental rights enumerated in our Constitution. That of due process and equality.
You all know that I don’t write just for my audience, this blog is nearly 3 years old now and I’ve used it for a number of reasons to document the times that we are all living in. Yes, it does have a slant towards issues that are important to me and it should, after all, I pay money each month for web space to do with whatever I want. More importantly though, this blog is my way of being politically active, regardless of the fact that nearly all my readers share most of my views, it’s likely that I will say something or even post something from elsewhere that you had not seen before or perhaps never considered. I consider this blog my history book, something that I can go back to in 20 years and understand what it meant to be living in 2010!
Anyhow, I’m re-posting the opening statement below for you to read. It lays out exactly what this trial will be about, what is at stake, who is involved, and why it is important. I will post more as time permits and as the trial develops.
Text of Ted Olson’s Opening Statement in Prop 8 Trial as Prepared
The federal trial over the unconstitutionality of Proposition 8 began today with an opening statement by attorney Theodore Olson, who with David Boies is leading the legal team assembled by the American Foundation for Equal Rights to litigate the case Perry v. Schwarzenegger. Opening statements will be followed by testimony from Kris Perry, Sandy Stier, Paul Katami and Jeff Zarrillo, who comprise two couples who wish to be married but who were denied marriage licenses because of Proposition 8.
After the opening statement David Boies gave the direct examination of Jeff Zarrillo and Paul Katami.
OPENING STATEMENT
(as prepared)This case is about marriage and equality. Plaintiffs are being denied both the right to marry, and the right to equality under the law.
The Supreme Court of the United States has repeatedly described the right to marriage as “one of the vital personal rights essential to the orderly pursuit of happiness by free men;” a “basic civil right;” a component of the constitutional rights to liberty, privacy, association, and intimate choice; an expression of emotional support and public commitment; the exercise of spiritual unity; and a fulfillment of one’s self.
In short, in the words of the highest court in the land, marriage is “the most important relation in life,” and “of fundamental importance for all individuals.”
As the witnesses in this case will elaborate, marriage is central to life in America. It promotes mental, physical and emotional health and the economic strength and stability of those who enter into a marital union. It is the building block of family, neighborhood and community. The California Supreme Court has declared that the right to marry is of “central importance to an individual’s opportunity to live a happy, meaningful, and satisfying life as a full member of society.”
Proposition 8 ended the dream of marriage, the most important relation in life, for the plaintiffs and hundreds of thousands of Californians.
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In May of 2008, the California Supreme Court concluded that under this State’s Constitution, the right to marry a person of one’s choice extended to all individuals, regardless of sexual orientation, and was available equally to same-sex and opposite-sex couples.
In November of 2008, the voters of California responded to that decision with Proposition 8, amending the State’s Constitution and, on the basis of sexual orientation and sex, slammed the door to marriage to gay and lesbian citizens.
The plaintiffs are two loving couples, American citizens, entitled to equality and due process under our Constitution. They are in deeply committed, intimate, and longstanding relationships. They want to marry the person they love; to enter into that “most important relation in life”; to share their dreams with their partners; and to confer the many benefits of marriage on their families.
But Proposition 8 singled out gay men and lesbians as a class, swept away their right to marry, pronounced them unequal, and declared their relationships inferior and less-deserving of respect and dignity.
In the words of the California Supreme Court, eliminating the right of individuals to marry a same-sex partner relegated those individuals to “second class” citizenship, and told them, their families and their neighbors that their love and desire for a sanctioned marital partnership was not worthy of recognition.
During this trial, Plaintiffs and leading experts in the fields of history, psychology, economics and political science will prove three fundamental points:
First – Marriage is vitally important in American society.
Second – By denying gay men and lesbians the right to marry, Proposition 8 works a grievous harm on the plaintiffs and other gay men and lesbians throughout California, and adds yet another chapter to the long history of discrimination they have suffered.
Third – Proposition 8 perpetrates this irreparable, immeasurable, discriminatory harm for no good reason.
I
MARRIAGE IS THE MOST IMPORTANT RELATION IN LIFE
Plaintiffs will present evidence from leading experts, representing some of the finest academic institutions in this country and the world, who will reinforce what the highest courts of California and the United States have already repeatedly said about the importance of marriage in society and the significant benefits that marriage confers on couples, their families, and the community. Proponents cannot dispute these basic facts.
While marriage has been a revered and important institution throughout the history of this country and this State, it has also evolved to shed irrational, unwarranted, and discriminatory restrictions and limitations that reflected the biases, prejudices or stereotypes of the past. Marriage laws that disadvantaged women or people of disfavored race or ethnicity have been eliminated. These changes have come from legislatures and the courts. Far from harming the institution of marriage, the elimination of discriminatory restrictions on marriage has strengthened the institution, its vitality, and its importance in American society today.
II
PROPOSITION 8 HARMS GAY AND LESBIAN INDIVIDUALS, THEIR CHILDREN AND THEIR COMMUNITIES
Proposition 8 had a simple, straightforward, and devastating purpose: to withdraw from gay and lesbian people like the Plaintiffs their previously recognized constitutional right to marry. The official title of the ballot measure said it all: “Eliminates Right of Same-Sex Couples to Marry.”
Proponents of Proposition 8 have insisted that the persons they would foreclose from the institution of marriage have suffered no harm because they have been given the opportunity to form something called a “domestic partnership.” That is a cruel fiction.
Plaintiffs will describe the harm that they suffer every day because they are prevented from marrying. And they will describe how demeaning and insulting it can be to be told that they remain free to marry—as long, that is, that they marry someone of the opposite sex instead of the person they love, the companion of their choice.
And the evidence will demonstrate that relegating gay men and lesbians to “domestic partnerships” is to inflict upon them badges of inferiority that forever stigmatize their loving relationships as different, separate, unequal, and less worthy—something akin to a commercial venture, not a loving union. Indeed, the proponents of Proposition 8 acknowledge that domestic partnerships are not the same as traditional marriage. Proponents proudly proclaim that, under Proposition 8, the “unique and highly favorable imprimatur” of marriage is reserved to “opposite-sex unions.”
This government-sponsored societal stigmatization causes grave psychological and physical harms to gay men and lesbians and their families. It increases the likelihood that they will experience discrimination and harassment; it causes immeasurable harm.
Sadly, Proposition 8 is only the most recent chapter in our nation’s long and painful history of discrimination and prejudice against gay and lesbian individuals. They have been classified as degenerates, targeted by police, harassed in the workplace, censored, demonized, fired from government jobs, excluded from our armed forces, arrested for their private sexual conduct, and repeatedly stripped of their fundamental rights by popular vote. Although progress has occurred, the roots of discrimination run deep and its impacts spread wide.
III
PROPOSITION 8 HARMS GAY AND LESBIAN INDIVIDUALS FOR NO GOOD REASON
Proposition 8 singles out gay and lesbian individuals alone for exclusion from the institution of marriage. In California, even convicted murderers and child abusers enjoy the freedom to marry. As the evidence clearly establishes, this discrimination has been placed in California’s Constitution even though its victims are, and always have been, fully contributing members of our society. And it excludes gay men and lesbians from the institution of marriage even though the characteristic for which they are targeted—their sexual orientation—like race, sex, and ethnicity, is a fundamental aspect of their identity that they did not choose for themselves and, as the California Supreme Court has found, is highly resistant to change.
The State of California has offered no justification for its decision to eliminate the fundamental right to marry for a segment of its citizens. And its chief legal officer, the Attorney General, admits that none exists. And the evidence will show that each of the rationalizations for Proposition 8 invented by its Proponents is wholly without merit.
“Procreation” cannot be a justification inasmuch as Proposition 8 permits marriage by persons who are unable or have no intention of producing children. Indeed, the institution of civil marriage in this country has never been tied to the procreative capacity of those seeking to marry.
Proposition 8 has no rational relation to the parenting of children because same-sex couples and opposite sex couples are equally permitted to have and raise children in California. The evidence in this case will demonstrate that gay and lesbian individuals are every bit as capable of being loving, caring and effective parents as heterosexuals. The quality of a parent is not measured by gender but the content of the heart.
And, as for protecting “traditional marriage,” our opponents “don’t know” how permitting gay and lesbian couples to marry would harm the marriages of opposite-sex couples. Needless to say, guesswork and speculation is not an adequate justification for discrimination. In fact, the evidence will demonstrate affirmatively that permitting loving, deeply committed, couples like the plaintiffs to marry has no impact whatsoever upon the marital relationships of others.
When voters in California were urged to enact Proposition 8, they were encouraged to believe that unless Proposition 8 were enacted, anti-gay religious institutions would be closed, gay activists would overwhelm the will of the heterosexual majority, and that children would be taught that it was “acceptable” for gay men and lesbians to marry. Parents were urged to “protect our children” from that presumably pernicious viewpoint.
At the end of the day, whatever the motives of its Proponents, Proposition 8 enacted an utterly irrational regime to govern entitlement to the fundamental right to marry, consisting now of at least four separate and distinct classes of citizens: (1) heterosexuals, including convicted criminals, substance abusers and sex offenders, who are permitted to marry; (2) 18,000 same-sex couples married between June and November of 2008, who are allowed to remain married but may not remarry if they divorce or are widowed; (3) thousands of same-sex couples who were married in certain other states prior to November of 2008, whose marriages are now valid and recognized in California; and, finally (4) all other same-sex couples in California who, like the Plaintiffs, are prohibited from marrying by Proposition 8.
There is no rational justification for this unique pattern of discrimination. Proposition 8, and the irrational pattern of California’s regulation of marriage which it promulgates, advances no legitimate state interest. All it does is label gay and lesbian persons as different, inferior, unequal, and disfavored. And it brands their relationships as not the same, and less-approved than those enjoyed by opposite sex couples. It stigmatizes gays and lesbians, classifies them as outcasts, and causes needless pain, isolation and humiliation.
It is unconstitutional.








